About Stemless

The single central question of the practice is this: What does it take to own your experience?

What does it actually mean to own your experience (rather than blaming the outside world) and how, and where, do you do that? Who does it? The speaker, or the listener? What muscle is used? What energy? Do you have to use words? (Obviously not.) How do you do it?

With words I can explicitly own my experience; "I have a story that you are feeling embarrassed".

But what happens if first; I really look inside; feel into the knowledge of this story, as I notice I've created it.

And, when I do realise; that this me has created this knowing or 'story'; what happens if then, I say, "You've just waken up in the cinema naked".

Will you then be able to see that I'm sharing how I'm seeing you? The construction and workings of my consciousness laid bare?

Stemless is a ruthlessly loving relational-presence practice. It's like meditation, except in connection with others.

Most social interaction consists of conspiracies to run away from awkwardness or seek validation, lest the fragile balance required in responding to even "how was your week" devolve into painful anarchy.

Stemless offers a container where our fleeting neurotic prisons can be shared and dissolved in lightness. We find intimacy in the truth by foregrounding the often-unsayable stories we're constantly inventing about ourselves and each other. Simply revealing our naked dreams, the practice of stemless loosens our need to "be seen" or establish who we think we are.

Our notion of connection is not in achieving a shared understanding of who or what we are. Rather, we attempt to lucid dream in our waking lives: to catch ourselves in the act of inventing the characters we see (and imagine ourselves to be).

Warm feelings might come, but they are not the goal. It might be weird at times. You might feel dropped, or unacknowledged. But it will be our joy to invite you in to experience a kaleidoscopic tilting of your world's dream logic; laughter; insight.